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Recognizing Important Moments Throughout Your Personal Development Journey

There are so many tips and tricks and books to help you become a better you. Where do you start? I don't know about you, but when I start to think of how I can better myself in all areas of my life, I just become overwhelmed. It's confusing. It's hard. Plus, how can anyone else know how I can better myself? The author of that famous book doesn’t know me and they certainly do not understand my problems. So at this point you might be thinking, "Why on earth should I listen to you?" How is what she has to say different than all the information already out there? I will let you in on my secret now rather than save it for the end; the only person who knows how to be a better you, is YOU.

For years I tried to figure out which golden nugget of information was given to me that would enhance areas in my life. I finally came to the realization that it was not a piece of advice that was given but rather it has been moments in time that changed my outlook and pushed me up. After coming to this understanding, I have taken on a new passion and interest in bettering myself in all aspects of my life by recognizing these important moments and capitalizing on them. 

Some moments take a very windy road but they can lead up if you let them. These moments do not have to be large life changing experiences. Small moments in time can change your journey in positive direction as well. For example, six months ago, I received an email from our Human Resources Director saying I was selected to be a part of a mentorship program at Ryan. Looking back on the day I received that email, I had no idea that the contents of that email would change my life in such a positive way. I’m grateful for this small moment that was interjected into my life and thankful for my mentor.

This experience has reminded me how important it is to actively seek out feedback from others. If you do not have a mentor, find one. Pick someone who you can talk to about the big picture. They do not have to completely understand your role and your day-to-day business, but they should be able to help you figure out how to handle certain situations, navigate difficult conversations and ultimately help you become a better you. This will only work if you let yourself be vulnerable though. Do not be afraid to let your guard down and really open-up about the areas you want to improve upon in addition to being honest about yourself and with yourself. 

I can’t just tell you to be vulnerable and then not be vulnerable myself. So, here’s another example of another life-changing moment that has led to personal development for me.

I have a child with a rare disease. For more than two years, we dealt with symptoms and illness with countless doctors, each diagnosing him with something different. Nothing made sense and nothing was working. One of our doctors had told me once, "Momma, you know your kid best so let's start with that." With her sweet voice in my head, I did just that. I dove into every medical resource I could come across. “Dr.” Google became my best friend. I was determined to find the answers I needed and I did. I found the diagnosis that fit every single symptom and moment in time for our journey. Our doctors were the experts but I was the missing piece to the puzzle. This changed our lives for the obvious reason of curing my son but also changed my life by giving me a very big reminder that it is imperative to take your destiny into your own hands. Yes, it was the doctors who should be diagnosing and finding the answers but that did not mean I wasn't a part of the process. People are there to help and guide you along the way but no one is going to make you more of a priority than you will yourself.

The moral of the story is, own all aspects of your life – big or small. Don't sit around waiting for that project manager to come by your desk and give you the information you need for a proposal; go get it from him. Don't expect your boss to include you in that important strategic planning meeting that should already involve marketing. Tell your boss how you can add value. You know you are sitting there annoyed that your colleague has ignored your emails for too long or annoyed you were not included in the meeting. That thought turns into thinking these people do not respect your time, they do not understand the value you bring, the importance of your role is misunderstood and it snowballs from there. Not only will you see better results from owning your own destiny; you will find that you are a happier person because of it. 

Here is the catch with these life-changing moments in my journey. I didn't realize that they were “moments” when they were happening. I didn't know how many ways my life would be changed because of them. There are plenty of areas I want to continue to change and improve. One day there will be a moment that will get me to the next phase in my life, but until then I will take the long and twisty path up until I recognize the straight road ahead. I wake up each day with only one goal in mind: Be the best you that you can be! How hard can that be when you are the only you? 

Colleen Kucera, CPSM
Director of Marketing, Ryan Companies US, Inc. 

Colleen grew up with her Dad being in the industry so she began learning from him at a young age; however, she made the conscious decision to join him in the construction world in 2007. Colleen has worked at Ryan Companies for the past seven years and she's been an active SMPS member for more than ten years. Colleen has held several leadership roles within SMPS such as President from 2011-2012. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her family and watching her kids experience the world from their young eyes. Colleen also sells makeup and jewelry but admittedly she's her number one customer! 


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